Friday, May 13, 2005

Baby steps

I don't post much serious stuff on here; this has kind of been my "escape" from real life. But I've come to realize I don't need to escape as much as I need to just overhaul my entire way of thinking/doing/feeling. I'm dealing with a lot of issues right now (moving, parenting, weight, probably more that I can't even name). The biggest right now is my relationship (or lack thereof) with my 13-year-old daughter. We are at total odds with each other and every day is a struggle. I need to devote as much of my energy and time as I can to this relationship. That will necessitate some changes in my blog reading/posting. I'll check in as often as I can... I'd appreciate prayers and good thoughts.

21 comments:

Chris said...

Lord, please be with Karen and Emily. Restore their relationship. Let Emily open up to her mother. Give Karen peace and patience. Amen

DJG said...

I know exactly how you feel. My daughter and I pretty much couldn't stand each other when she was 13. One month before her 14th birthday she and my son were in a car accident. She almost lost her right hand. We were in the hospital a week and then she went through therapy, etc. for about 6 months. She had to depend on me then. We grew extremely close. I would never wish this pain on you or your daughter, but I know that without it we would not have the relationship that we now do.

You will have my prayers.

Carrie said...

I will be praying, too.

Thumper said...

I do not miss those evil teen years at all...It passes, but it's not fun. The Boy looks back and can't believe how he was; I look back and can't believe we let him survive...

Beaner said...

When I was a teenage horror, mt mother was very overprotective & I was too independent. We never had that "let's shop together & share girlie secrets" relationship. At one point in my life, right after I got married, I wasn't speaking to my mom for at least 6 mos. I'm not telling you this to scare you, because time & children heal all wounds & my mom & I have a pretty good relationship now. But keep working at it, but don't push it either. I don't know the whole back story, but I know I'm scared to death to go through this again when my OWN daughter gets a bit older! Lord have mercy on me!!! (And I love & appreciate my mom on a whole new level now that I'm a parent!)

Clarissa said...

Tough stuff, huh? Prayer, lots of prayer. That doesn't guarantee easy answers, but it can't hurt!

Mellie Helen said...

Transitions: to teenhood, new home, new state, yada yada. Puberty alone is enough to wreak havoc. You go tend to Real Life and we'll patiently await your posts. After all, without Real Life, there'd be nothing to blog about! Of course you and your family will be in my prayers. Hugs and a reminder of Who is always in control :)

Dawn said...

I hope everything works out ok. That is a tough age for both parent and child.

Michele sent me.

melodyann said...

At thirteen, they turn into something monstrous. Both my daughters went through it. My oldest is now 18, and we have a fairly good relationship. My youngest is now 14, and mostly hates me. Give her space, time, and love. It DOES get better.

melodyann said...

oops, forgot to say michele sent me!

Shane said...

I guess the homeschooling thing compounds how visible you feel any relationship problems with the 13 yo daughter seems. It sounds like your priorities are in order, I'm sure any shifts in your blogging practices will be supported by your regular reads and readers.

Today's mantra: "Small strides make long walks".

Me said...

Ok...I am now SCARED! I have THREE daughters, aged 9 (twins) and 11...and I still have all this ahead of me...
Thinking of you with your 13 year old... Remember, this too shall pass...

Ochemma

Oh, and Michele sent me!

kym said...

(((hugs))) Good luck!!

Anonymous said...

Sending you all good wishes and praying that you find common groung -- you're love for each other!

Take care.

(Liz @ This Full House)

Audrey said...

hey- i found your site off of ourgreenroom.com. i am 16 and my advice to you is this, between the ages of 12-14 or so your daughter does not like you. im sorry but its just the truth. its ok though just give her some space and dont try to get to the bottom of it or try to hang out with her. let her hate you cus itll by worse if you try to "talk" to you. me and my mom went through this and but now im not embarresed by her and its great. its just a stage in life just like any other...!audrey

Suzanne said...

Oh I hate it that you have to go through this, and it seems we all have to at one age or another!! Hang in there, and here's sending well wishes your way!

mrsrum said...

I know that you two will find your way through this time and will have a stronger bond because of it. I'll be praying for you to have strength, courage and patience!

Susie said...

Karen, I'm saying a little prayer for you and your daughter. No experience here yet other than being a teenage daughter once, but chin up! Soon she will come to realize that she really does need you. : )

Cheers! : )

Philip said...

I'm glad you're focusing on what's important. I know you can rebuild that relationship.

PractiGal said...

It's too bad we can't just skip right over this stage. I remember what a hormonal early teen I was!! Wishing you all the best... take some time for you, Mom!

Sleeping Mommy said...

Family and your own sense of equilibrium have to come first. Take care.

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